女子的心事千迴百轉， 不求你懂得， 也許你想了解也根本不會懂。再精明或是懵懂，也逐漸明白，到底不過是想愛一個願意盡力愛自己的人。可以說女子不肯面對現實，但實情是，其實女子心裡明白，如此要求可能根本永遠不會遇到一個稱心的對象。

如果放開懷抱去找一個歸宿，世上可擁抱的男子，又何止千萬.....

"Talking yourself into not loving the person is often times not an option. It can be very painful and devastating to convince yourself that you don't love someone anymore when you really and apparently still do. Hence the best thing to do, is to leave the feelings alone and instead assign a new role to the other person. As a special friend, as a soul mate, as a buddy, as a mental clone, as a whatever role that is comfortable for the two of you.

I realize there should be a fine line between friends and lovers. The thing is, where is that line? Why is it natural for us to kiss and hug our lovers but not our friends? I never understand why love has to be so strictly controlled and categorized. Love is love. Love for friends is the same sort of love for lovers. The only difference that makes lovers special is probably the extra bit of lust that allows us to reproduce and pass on our genes. Just because one can't be together as lovers with another, doesn't mean the love between the two has to be repressed."

某師傅說，別聽人說的話，看他做的事，理性談情。可能你會問，理性怎樣談情，少來了,,,,,

沒愛情不行、奮不顧身不行、太計算，又不想，也根本不是這種人。戀愛擇偶都很煩對不對，做人、做女人根本就是很煩，要天資、要家世、不能太蠢、不能太聰明、不能太醜、又要有內在美、不能太出世、又不能太隨波逐流。很煩是不是？沒辦法，誰叫你媽那麼厲害十月懷胎生你出黎？

"一个男人表达爱慕的方法有各种各样，甜言蜜语也千变万化。所以爱没有特定规则。但反过来，如果他对你没兴趣，那特征往往只有一种，那就是不主动。当一个男人再也不主动找你，不主动约你，不主动陪你聊天，那他就是对你没兴趣了。爱是主动，不爱是被动，就这么简单。" ——陆琪

" 分手的時候總是覺得「沒有你，我一定活不下去」，但人生有什麼是「一定」的？Wendy從沒想過會在診所碰見前夫的新歡，更沒想過為了修身而學瑜伽會讓她在課上認識一位牙醫，兩人最近開始約會。你以為沒有他就是世界末日，是因為你不相信你會成長，會變得更強，終有一天他在你的人生會變得無關痛癢。"

"While vulnerability cannot be completely avoided, we still need to be cautious to minimize the potential damage. Take care."

感激。

想保持輕省（也因為無心工作），於是刪去電話裡了很多無謂的app、照片、通訊紀錄，不慎把他跟我的都刪去了，而我竟然會覺得心痛。心裡掙扎了好一陣子，反而是這樣的小事情讓我確認我是真正愛他，那末，有什麼好掙扎呢。

世界上男人女人這麼多，而他跟我，也不見得沒有別的選擇。

初戀至今，身邊換了好幾個人，到底愛情或attachment如何產生？我還是不懂得。